"Thanks for _________, babe!"

Most of my blog readers love to cook. Most. I am definitely included in that bunch — kitchen time is my Zen. It is my “me time”. A lot of our friends and family members compliment my culinary commitment and turn to Mr. Prevention and sputter something along these lines:

“YOU ARE SOOO LUCKY!”

I’m going to safely assume some of you or your significant others have received comments right up that alley. I mean, who doesn’t love to be cooked for? Nutritious cooking, an added bonus.

And hopefully you aren’t all married to or dating Mr. Prevention prototypes who respond with a defensive, “I don’t ask her to cook every night. I’m fine with pizza. Every night.”

He’d switch it up — Domino’s, Pizza Hut, Tony’s, and maybe a Di Giorno (if they go on sale). “Never the same thing every night”, he’d explain.

Point being, Mr. Prevention is all but wow-ed by my culinary abilities.

Variety? Over-rated. Healthy? Over-rated? Balance? Over-rated. (cheap) PIZZA, please.

Rewind to yesterday evening when I’m folding his laundry (perfectly – thanks to years in retail work during college). “I love you, babe”…”Thanks for doing the laundry, hun.”

Rewind a little further to yesterday afternoon. “What time did you get home from work? The house looks great, babe” (after 2 hours of picking up a week’s worth of crap laying around and re-familiarizing myself with what a kitchen table and counters look like).

It’s amazing what our significant others appreciate. Sadly for me, cooking and baking warrant no return in this marriage. The things we don’t know before, “I do”…..(I kid!)

Like hunger, physical love is a necessity. But man’s appetite for amour is never so regular or so sustained as his appetite for the delights of the table. -Honore de Balzac

Wrong, Mr. Balzac. Wrong.

So, Question: What is something you do (cooking, cleaning, or otherwise) that gets you a little love from that someone special? Is there something you do that goes unnoticed or under-appreciated?

P.S. Does everyone’s blog traffic plummet over the weekend…or is it just me?

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37 Comments

  1. thecookingnurse
    March 27, 2010 / 6:52 am

    My husband really seems to appreciate when I make him a nice breakfast on the weekends. I rarely get a thank you for the meals I prepare every weeknight 🙂

  2. March 27, 2010 / 6:55 am

    My hubby likes a clean house…but even more than that he likes a home-cooked meal…every single night! The good thing is that he doesn’t mind eating leftovers so I usually make a huge meal on the weekend and it lasts through about mid-week. Then until the weekend when I can make a big meal again, it’s easy things like chicken breast, fish, burgers, or eggs.

    It’s not just you, my traffic definitely slows during the weekend too! 🙂

  3. March 27, 2010 / 7:26 am

    It’s definitely not just you, my traffic does, too. I hope that means people are out and about, enjoying themselves 🙂

    Peter doesn’t always notice the cleaning and folding laundry and such … although I can sometimes see him trying – he’s very obvious! But, one thing he does notice is the cooking! He’s such a foodie that people actually turn to me and say “You are SOO lucky!” And you know what? I am! I cook and bake, but nothing like him. I don’t know if I could have predicted that before “I do”, but I’m happy with what I’ve got 🙂

    Have a wonderful weekend!

  4. March 27, 2010 / 9:27 am

    The one thing Mr. Famished appreciates is when I help him out with something for his job or when I run an errand for him that he can not find the time to do with his crazy schedule.
    He also appreciates when I make him pancakes sometimes. The thing with with pancakes is I sub in pumpkin puree for the oil. HEHE that is the only way a fruit or veggie will cross his lips.
    I wish I could cook healthy for him 🙁
    Hopefully in time!

    • Nicole
      Author
      March 28, 2010 / 1:51 pm

      And I bet he doesn’t even notice!!

  5. March 27, 2010 / 9:55 am

    Nothing goes unnoticed or under-appreciated in my house – since there’s only me to do the work and complain about it ;).

    The weekend seems to be the only time I can get motivated to update my blog. Work during the week just wears me out.

  6. March 27, 2010 / 12:08 pm

    My husband really does enjoy and appreciate my cooking, but he appreciates my baking more 🙂
    He grew up in a house where he was well taken care of and didn’t have to do much, but was so appreciative, so he notices and appreciates everything, sometimes too much 🙂
    And yes, my blog traffic totally plummets over the weekend. I know I spend less time reading and commenting myself!

  7. March 27, 2010 / 12:10 pm

    Matt and I both split the household chores except I always do laundry – but he handles the finances.

    I think we both cook – I probably do more than he does though!

  8. March 27, 2010 / 12:16 pm

    My roommate loves when I cook. She would be fine with cereal for dinner but I am all about cooking. Cooking is my zen too 🙂

  9. March 27, 2010 / 12:17 pm

    haha love this post!

    My fiance has never cooked a real meal in his life. He has no concept about what needs to be done in the kitchen. He totally appreciates when I cook for him, but doesn’t even notice if I scrub the house top to bottom.

  10. March 27, 2010 / 12:19 pm

    My husband totally appreciates the cooking. Mostly because we both are so busy that I never have the time to make a good meal. So when I do, he loves it! Plus, it is a lot easier finding the time during the week because I know how much he appreciates it…

  11. March 27, 2010 / 12:29 pm

    My cooking definitely goes appreciated…and I loveee being cooked for, except not everyone is as much of a fan of healthy as me. You and your husband sound so cute! And to answer your question, my blog traffic does slightly flop over the weekends…people out enjoying the fresh-air I hope!

  12. March 27, 2010 / 12:31 pm

    My husband rarely eats the food I make – we are pretty much a “cook for yourself” household. Although he does eat my baked goodies and asks for chocolate chip cookies on a regular basis.

  13. March 27, 2010 / 12:37 pm

    I’m the only reason our house is clean… well except for the toilets, I don’t do those… I guilt Andrew into doing it for me. I also take care of all the gifts/cards for all of our family/friends’ birthdays as well as thank you notes. I go for months and months without a thank you or a compliment about it and out of the blue he’ll look at me and call me Super Woman. That always makes me smile! 🙂

  14. March 27, 2010 / 1:06 pm

    It’s not just you… blog traffic goes down a bit on the weekends 😉

  15. March 27, 2010 / 1:30 pm

    My hubby do appreciates whenever i cook his special dishes…most of the time,…

  16. March 27, 2010 / 2:05 pm

    My traffic plummets over the weekend too! Sometimes my boyfriend notices when I do things (dishes, straightening up) . . . other times he is just oblivious. Or maybe he notices but doesn’t say anything? No idea!

  17. March 27, 2010 / 3:23 pm

    Haha! This is kind of funny! I pretty much only get appreciated for cooking! The fella thinks I should open a restaurant (he doesn’t understand that the things I make aren’t actually THAT good, they’re just better than what he makes…). My mom also appreciates my cooking but I think it’s because she hates cooking. Funny how people’s appreciation is different.

  18. March 27, 2010 / 3:35 pm

    My traffic is always low on the weekends!

    Not much I do gets attention. But my husband does almost all of the cooking, and I let him know how much I love it! I am more in charge of cleaning.

  19. March 27, 2010 / 4:04 pm

    My traffic goes way down on the weekends too…guess people just don’t spend as much time at their computers (which is probably a good thing overall!).

    My hubby definitely appreciates my cooking. He loves good, wholesome food (most of the time), so he’s appreciative that he gets that every night without having to do much. Although occasionally he’ll get in the kitchen and whip up something for me, which is always fun! 🙂

  20. March 27, 2010 / 4:35 pm

    My traffic drops on the weekend too! Glad to know its not just me!!

    I dont cook for my boyfriend very often. If he picks up the groceries then I’ll make him something. I just cant afford to be spending money on groceries and then feeding them all to him. Selfish maybe, but thats me!! lol

  21. March 27, 2010 / 6:34 pm

    When I am cooking and my husband comes in the house he says, ” Wow it smells delicious in here!”

    • Nicole
      Author
      March 28, 2010 / 1:54 pm

      That’s sweet!

  22. March 27, 2010 / 7:54 pm

    The dishes! If I ask him to do the dishes, he’s like, “I just did them two days ago.” I do them every single day!! He fails to notice that.

    My blog traffic also plummets over the weekend.

  23. March 27, 2010 / 8:33 pm

    I would say sometimes things like cleaning go unnoticed but for the hubs always recognizes and is thankful for clean undies. Or when he sees something new M learned. 😀

    And my traffic always plummets over the weekend too.

  24. March 27, 2010 / 11:13 pm

    I’m lucky Ben gives me kudos for the cooking, which is good because as much as I love to do it, it is work. I don’t think he notices the general picking up (especially his laundry dropped all over the house).

  25. March 28, 2010 / 8:28 am

    Yes, Yes, and Yes. I agree with you on all fronts. First, my blog traffic dies over the weekend. Especially now that I don’t comment on blogs like I used to (or at least not as often) it’s really died down. I’m completely ok with that though, and I understand.

    As for appreciation from Nick, I do get “thanked” QUITE often, however I also get complains quite often. Such as, “that’s it??” or “no bread?”?? Or, “beans and rice? I wanted eggs!” haha. Beggers can’t be choosers, BUDDY! And yes, many of our friends and family tell Nick he is “lucky to have me” but I’m happy to say he always replies with a nod and a smile 🙂 Then I say, “I’m lucky too, he does the laundry, that’s all I need!”.

  26. March 28, 2010 / 8:46 am

    Isn’t it funny how all men are so different? My Mr. is a total fan of my cooking and is always ripping through recipe books and picking out what he wants. Nowadays, he is even getting into the cooking part–chopping, sauteeing, etc. We do very well together in the kitchen!

    • Nicole
      Author
      March 28, 2010 / 1:50 pm

      Cassie, that’s wonderful! What I would give to get some interaction in the kitchen!

  27. March 28, 2010 / 1:37 pm

    This post could have been written by me! My husband would be happy with steak and baked potatoes – every night! But he knows it’s my “me time” and let’s me spend countless hours in the kitchen!

    I am going to make your pork carnitas this week!

    • Nicole
      Author
      March 28, 2010 / 1:48 pm

      You will love them! I just finished up the leftovers 🙂

  28. March 28, 2010 / 4:46 pm

    If I had you to cook for me, I would never eat at a restaurant again!

    I hope one day when I find a guy, he’ll appreciate the cooking and cleaning I do. I actually LIKE to do that stuff, but like anything, even if I’m doing something I enjoy and it isn’t appreciated, it makes me NOT like it. (And all I ask is for a man who will unload the dishwasher. Seriously).

  29. March 28, 2010 / 6:55 pm

    I feel so lucky that my husband never forgets to thank me for cooking such a delicious meal 🙂 the man does not take it for granted!

  30. March 28, 2010 / 9:12 pm

    Love this! I was just gonna do a post about bog traffic plummenting tomorrow! My hubby does appreciate my cookingthough he is a ver self sufficient man:)

  31. March 30, 2010 / 12:23 pm

    Sometimes I get upset when I don’t think Z appreciates my cooking. Oh guys. It makes me learn to take and love any little compliment about it, especially “I would ask you to make this again”. But desserts…THOSE things he will swoon over!

  32. April 10, 2010 / 11:04 am

    I think the favorite thing I do for my husband sometimes is his laundry – he hates folding laundry and loves it when he wakes up to discover that yes he has clean clothes (when he thought he needed to do laundry) and better yet they are in his drawer – although that sometimes confuses him, neatly folded clothes 😉
    He’s mixed about my cooking – there are certain things he loves and he lets me know it, like my bread or when I cook meat (that might also be positive reinforcement since I don’t like touching raw meat). Other times… well, it’s a bit too healthy for him. But he’s very supportive of my interest in cooking, it’s just not his first choice in what he’s going to eat.

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